One of the outcomes of couples therapy

As couples therapy progresses, and two people begin to get along better... each partner, typically, is careful not to say or do things that are going to trigger their partner. At the same time both partners in the marriage work within their own individual selves to manage their own vulnerable propensity to get triggered. This all happens as security in the marriage grows and open communication has come to replace the negative cycle. Negative moments are increasingly taken as "misdemeanors" and not as "felonies." Partners work both not to offend or to be easily offended.