Healing The MarriageOfOpposites:
Workshop For Couples
October 12-24, 2004
5:30 PM Fri Evening Through Sunday Morning 1:30 PM
Ten 1.5hr. sessions over three days
Location: 1121 24th Street
Midtown Sacramento
$600 per couple
Call 530 448-9177
(Enrollment limited to 18 couples)
It is an old old story the dance that couples
do. Where one wants intimacy, the other seeks distance. Where one gets
emotional, the other becomes cognitive. Where one feels needful, the other is
self-sufficient. Where one's self-boundaries are loose, the other's are tight.
Where one initiates emotional encounters, the other does not.Where one feels an
urgent need to talk, the other feels apprehension. Where one is overwhelmed
with vulnerability, ther other barely touches vulnerability.
The majority of couples live within some variation of this yin/yang patterns.
Typically one in the relationship is expressive of emotions, needful of high
levels of relational contact and overtly upset and disappointed in how the
relating usually goes. Often such a person is often paired with someone who is
emotionally contained , does not initiate relational contact, and is avoidant
of conflict. Variously described as the minimizer-maximizer relationship, the
pursuer-distancer relationship, or the fuser-isolator relationship; as
wonderful as these relationships often start or can come to be, they are often
troubled by repeated feelings of abandonment, escalative fights, emotional
distancing, and terrible disillusionment.
This is a three day educational experience designed to assist couples to
recognise these dyanmics at play in their relationship and to usefully
interrupt and work with these destructive patterns.