Healing The MarriageOfOpposites:
Workshop For Couples

October 12-24, 2004
5:30 PM Fri Evening Through Sunday Morning 1:30 PM
Ten 1.5hr. sessions over three days

Location: 1121 24th Street
Midtown Sacramento
$600 per couple

Call 530 448-9177
(Enrollment limited to 18 couples)

 

 

It is an old old story the dance that couples do. Where one wants intimacy, the other seeks distance. Where one gets emotional, the other becomes cognitive. Where one feels needful, the other is self-sufficient. Where one's self-boundaries are loose, the other's are tight. Where one initiates emotional encounters, the other does not.Where one feels an urgent need to talk, the other feels apprehension. Where one is overwhelmed with vulnerability, ther other barely touches vulnerability.

The majority of couples live within some variation of this yin/yang patterns. Typically one in the relationship is expressive of emotions, needful of high levels of relational contact and overtly upset and disappointed in how the relating usually goes. Often such a person is often paired with someone who is emotionally contained , does not initiate relational contact, and is avoidant of conflict. Variously described as the minimizer-maximizer relationship, the pursuer-distancer relationship, or the fuser-isolator relationship; as wonderful as these relationships often start or can come to be, they are often troubled by repeated feelings of abandonment, escalative fights, emotional distancing, and terrible disillusionment.

This is a three day educational experience designed to assist couples to recognise these dyanmics at play in their relationship and to usefully interrupt and work with these destructive patterns.